tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6140030601596499901.post1218841317650382044..comments2023-06-16T09:01:41.244-05:00Comments on Three Little Birds (plus one more): Listen up! lisa matthewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01229574206058162242noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6140030601596499901.post-58756550642275203562013-02-10T22:18:04.372-06:002013-02-10T22:18:04.372-06:00Lisa do not let this upset you or any other commen...Lisa do not let this upset you or any other comments. Believe me I let to much upset me and daily I am in tears. Please just ignore any comments in picking up your daughter and let this be one of the happiest time ever. This will be one day you will remember and cherish in your entire life. My husband will not be able to travel and my son Patrick will help me during the trip.. Thank goodness we were lucky to have air miles for his tickets or he would not be able to travel with me. Remember what I said :O))) it will be okay. P.S> do you still need a jacket for your little one??Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15018244141507259507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6140030601596499901.post-18454726318029563622013-02-10T15:23:16.033-06:002013-02-10T15:23:16.033-06:00The funny thing is... the people who make comments...The funny thing is... the people who make comments about getting a "monthly government check" have no experience with disabilities. If they had, they would know that the "monthly government check" is tiny, not everyone qualifies for it, and often pays for little more than (or less than) the cost of therapies (not all are covered by insurance or Medicaid)and other items/services needed by your child. Anyone who thinks the parents of disabled children somehow profit from them is sadly mistaken. <br />Many people mistakenly believe that all disabled adopted children automatically qualify for a "subsidy check" from the govt. Not true. Some states do offer a monthly subsidy check for the child if he/she is adopted from foster care. Texas does this. For children adopted internationally... this isn't an option. Because they weren't wards of the state before their adoption, they aren't eligible for anything like that. <br />So yes... anyone who thinks adopting a child with special needs via international adoption will benefit you financially is just plain wrong! lisa matthewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01229574206058162242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6140030601596499901.post-86655107268685652342013-02-10T15:03:44.837-06:002013-02-10T15:03:44.837-06:00Sorry you felt like you needed to justify your dec...Sorry you felt like you needed to justify your decision. As a parent who has birthed 5 sons and adopted one I will say adoption was the much harder road....the whole 9 months of the adoption process and even now the 2 1/2 years since my boy has been home. So you hit the nail on the head when saying that "gotcha day" is just the beginning. We had some nasty things said about us with the worst being that the only reason we adopted a child with special needs was to get a monthly government check, something that had never even entered our minds. If I wanted extra money I would quit my hard "non-paying stay-at-home mom job" and go get a much easier "paying" job instead of adopting a child with special needs. And you're also right on it will be a challenge taking a 6 yr. old with on the journey. I could never have done. I told my 13 yr. old with on the 2nd trip b/c my husband couldn't go and I didn't want to go alone but he was more like and adult than a child. May God bless you all on the rest of your journey. I have the Starfish Story beside my kitchen sink. Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07682416556210504840noreply@blogger.com